Often people want to make changes, but are overwhelmed by a very loud and convincing inner critic. An inner critic is: a powerful, internal voice that tells us we cannot do well in life and achieve our goals a form of self-criticism a common symptom of depression An inner critic is a voice that is built up from messages we’ve heard from others or tell ourselves and carry with us as absolute truths. These messages are painful and can get in the way of taking action to improve our lives. For example: You want to start a romantic relationship, but your inner critic says “I’m unlovable” and you avoid the pain of trying You want to begin exercising regularly, but Read more

Women! – We Are More Than Our Stories

September 26, 2018

Kyong Yi, LCSW

This summer, I attended the first ever “Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) BootCamp for Women’s Issues.” Though I had attended a traditional ACT Bootcamp earlier this year, I was drawn to this summer event out of a desire to connect more with my community of women and to examine ways I can better serve my female clients. The reality of the unique struggles women face in the world has been inescapable in both my personal life and in the therapy room. I went to the training ready to learn. I walked away empowered and inspired. A Mutually Shared Story Throughout the training, we often reflected on the question, “What is our story?” In other words, “How did I come to Read more

Did you make a new year’s resolution at the start of this year? Or have you ever made one in the past? Like most of us, you probably started off with a lot of enthusiasm and lofty goals. But how many times have you actually succeeded in sticking to the resolution? How many times have you reached your final goal? And if you failed, have you ever wondered what exactly has gotten in the way? There is no shame in admitting it. You are in good company. Even with the best intentions and motivations, we all have a tendency to lose sight of our goals and falter at making the changes that we desire. Why is that? An Unsound Relationship Read more

Quit Drinking to Create Better Relationships

April 11, 2018

Bryce Doehne, Psy.D.

Many people drink as part of socializing with others and feel it helps them loosen up, have a better time, and overcome any social anxiety they may feel. They may think alcohol helps them stay connected with people and have better relationships.  Yet, after reflection, some people find that alcohol use actually interferes with their relationships. However, quitting or cutting back drinking is often difficult. It can be an isolating experience for someone who has been a “social drinker”. In addition, people who normally drink during social occasions can often find themselves coping with increased anxiety when attempting to connect with others. This makes quitting or cutting back alcohol hard when you start to think you might need to. Why Read more

Your Blood Alcohol Content (BAC) and What It Can Tell You

March 13, 2018

Bryce Doehne, Psy.D.

Excessive drinking is a safety issue in more ways than one. According to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), 10,265 individuals were killed in drunk-driving accidents in 2015 alone. Use of Uber or Lyft may help one avoid driving while intoxicated, however, drinking has other risks we often don’t think about. Safety Risks of Excessive Drinking Drinking past the recommended alcohol consumption limit is linked to numerous other safety risks besides car accidents. Injuries resulting from falls are more likely in people who are impaired by the effects of over-drinking. Excessive alcohol consumption is also closely-linked to fatal swimming and boating accidents, as you can easily misjudge your ability to do either when intoxicated. Of course, you are also at Read more